I prefer guy friends. Why? Because there's less drama and when you fight, you can sort it out without hurtful things being said. Guys can help when it comes to relationships, because you're getting the other gender's perspective on things and it helps with what you want to do with your situation.
Hanging around guys helps you boost your self-confidence because your guy friends won't judge you on what you wear when you hang out, and you won't feel like you do when you meet up with your girl friends. For example, when I meet up with my girl friends and I see what they wear, because I'm not the most fashionable person and wear things that I feel comfortable in, I instantly feel down and for the entire day I'll feel like that. It's different when I meet up with guys because well, they dress up differently and in a way I kind of blend. Hanging around guys boosts my self confidence, therefore having the guts to talk and be normal around the guy I like.
Having really good guy best friends is like having a brother you never had. The best thing is they're not related and won't go blabbing to your parents about your secrets, and whenever a guy hurts you, they get uptight about it and want to help you in some way. It's cute.
The worst thing about having guy friends? When you fall for them. Nobody has any control of their emotions. What you feel is what you feel. It's how you act on the emotion, that you can control. When you fall for them, you don't really know what to do because you're afraid of there reaction, like you might not get the reaction you want. It'll be your decision and you have to be prepared for what will happen. The future's unpredictable, I know, so don't expect him to like you back but don't expect your friendship to be completely ruined. Ignoring the feeling can go either way too, but remember that everything happens for a reason so don't be disappointed. What will hurt, is when you watch him love other girls and when you watch him go through break ups. That shouldn't stop you from being an amazing friend to him though, because you have to remember that you're his girl best friend and he'll always come to you no matter what the situation is.
What do you do when it's the other way around and your guy best friend likes you? Honestly, I don't know. If he asks you out, then what do you do? You have to think and I mean really think about everything. By saying no, it could be awkward for a while and you won't talk but everything has a way of working itself out and after a while everything will be back to normal. I'm not saying that will happen, I'm saying that's one of the many possibilities that could happen. Just make sure you think about what you want to do and make sure you're happy with the decision that you make.
I have my guy friends that I love hanging around and talking to but they don't beat my absolute guy best friend who i tell EVERYTHING to. Tristan and I have had our ups and downs in our friendship. We haven't been friends for a long time but we're close. He may not give the best advice at times, but he's there to listen. If I just need someone to listen, he'll be there and he was there when the break up happened. He was there for a shoulder to cry on, he was there to offer hugs when I needed them. I'm thankful for Tristan, he's a sped and makes me smile all the time.
"A loyal friend laughs at your jokes when they're not so good, and sympathizes with your problems when they're not so bad"
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